On Love
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What is love? To be more specific, what is romantic love? Is it purely physical attraction? Or is it the emotional involvement with someone who you find physically attractive. One view (that I find quite interesting) is the view that we have learned to group all of our physio-biological responses - increased heart rate, increased blood pressure, a heightened state of arousal - and give it a name "love". The concept of romantic love really wasn't developed until 500-1000 years ago. It really wasn't until people had the luxury and time to sit around and do nothing to really dream up romance. The old societies were too focused on survival and being able to live another day. They struggled to farm, gather, or hunt, or wage war. Marriages were arranged and made in the interest of the economy of the family and propagating the family line.
The Greeks had three types of love: phileo, eros, and agape. Phileo is was the brotherly love - or as we know it today, friendship. Eros is basically carnal, sexual, physical love. And agape is the unconditional, primarily familial, fatherly (or parental) love. Now, I think currently the modern definition of love is a mixture of phileo and eros. It really wasn't until the feudal periods, that people of the court had the time (while the serfs slaved away) to dote upon one another. I think the same goes true of Chinese literature. Love stories really didn't begin until civilization, rulers, and the rich had enough left over money to support writers, painters, and such. And until that point, there really wasn't mention of "love", nor were there many poets. Look at the Greek plays... nothing really romantic... the tragedies were about incest... and death, and the other genre would be epic histories, or possibly comedies about the fallacies of man.
So what got me thinking about all of this? Well, this summer, I just can't stop thinking about one particular person. But does this qualify as being "in love" or is it just a crush? And what is a crush exactly? And how did it just get that name? Are you crushed by all the thoughts of that person? Everywhere I turn, I think about this particular person. Its gone way too far, anything and everything triggers thoughts about her. I really miss her smile and just being around her. She is the definition of cuteness. She has the most beautiful eyes and a great smile. And those are just the icing on the cake because she is just a fun person to be around. She has funny and interesting things to say. She also makes these cute sounds randomly. She's very quirky and I'm definitely going to miss her a lot. I talk about her all the time. Her parents are really nice people too. She just lives a very interesting life. So I was just thinking to myself, does this mean that I have too much time on my hands? Should I be slaving away in the fields somewhere as to stop the torment... cuz it really has become quite absurd. I see the car that she drives, I watch a baseball game, listening to a song on the radio... everything is a cue and triggers... and it makes me happy... they're great happy thoughts, but the I remember that I won't see her for a long time. And then I wonder why I had to meet her my last summer in LA and not before... *sigh* life goes on I guess...